![rw-book-cover](https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fit:1200/1*aORJ3X_xCvS42-UVPTJNDw.jpeg) ## Highlights - How to have orgasms without ejaculating So, you’re ready, are you? Let’s go! Let’s first look at the moment you need to withhold semen. It’s best to practice with masturbation first, ideally without hard-driving music or porn. When you are nearing the time to come, slow down a little and pay attention to the moment, to your breath, and to what’s in your mind. Remind yourself why you want to avoid ejaculation this time and how much better it will feel and that you’re not giving up anything but are enhancing your experience ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjfx46t4ttjkw6zkr0656my)) - When you reach the point of no return, stop moving, and with a finger or knuckle, push upward against your perineum as hard as you safely can without risking pain or injury. Clench the perineum muscles upwards as if you’re shooting energy up your spine from that point. At the same time, close your eyes and turn them upward as if you’re looking above your head. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjfy58c0t8exb1ww7r6fpp5)) - Simultaneously curl your tongue backward inside your closed mouth, so the bottom of the tongue presses against your upper palate. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjfygjr9hj1x0v8jw3732s1)) - Also if possible create as much of a straight line in your spine as you realistically can do in the moment. That includes pulling your chin down to straighten your neck. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjfyswpsj59hb2gdesg1da3)) - Tighten your muscle right below your rib cage so it clenches upward and inward. And hold your breath as long as you can. You ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjfza32pyetenzvvz22dapn)) - Sit in lotus (or as close as you can get to it) with your hands clasped low behind your back in a relaxed position. Bend down to touch your chest to your right knee (or as close as you can get.) As you bend down, breathe out. As you return to sitting up, breathe in. Then, repeat, to your left knee. Do this eighty times altogether (forty times down to each knee.) ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjg54nvy9k2g14chhdmdzyz)) - When you’re completed the eighty bends after you’ve breathed out, come to center with an extra substantial inbreath. Hold it as long as you can while doing all the other things I listed earlier: curling your tongue, closing your eyelids and turning your eyes upward, straightening your spine and neck, clenching the perineum upwards, as well as the muscle at the solar plexus area. Then, suddenly release everything at once and sit there in lotus with your eyes ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjg7x74syh9k8zxp2d50dd3)) - Do that exercise in lotus position with a partner. Both of you bring the energy above your heads at the same time before returning it to the base of your spine. That’s particularly enjoyable while doing that while sitting back to back. Now, turn to face each other, and instead of bringing the focus back down your own body, bring it down your partner’s body. While you two are getting used to reading each other, trace the pattern with your finger on his or her body. So, when the imaginary circulation of energy comes down from above your head and across to your partner’s scalp, touch it lightly and drag your finger down along your partner’s spine to the base. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjgebk8q4dt8dxrbhe3p9y0)) - Your partner will imagine that line of light. Then, push at the base to represent the energy jumping across from your partner’s sex organs to yours, and draw the imaginary line of energy up your body again. Circle it around as long as you both like, making it go faster and harder as you progress. You’ll be hopefully feel that you’re able to sort of *be* inside each other’s bodies. You each feel the other’s energy traveling inside your body. By circulating it, it becomes not just you and the other person, but both of you together as one. It’s energizing, intimately bonding, a new adventure to explore. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjgfv27zsdheady9j7yqb1v)) ![rw-book-cover](https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fit:1200/1*aORJ3X_xCvS42-UVPTJNDw.jpeg) ## Highlights - How to have orgasms without ejaculating So, you’re ready, are you? Let’s go! Let’s first look at the moment you need to withhold semen. It’s best to practice with masturbation first, ideally without hard-driving music or porn. When you are nearing the time to come, slow down a little and pay attention to the moment, to your breath, and to what’s in your mind. Remind yourself why you want to avoid ejaculation this time and how much better it will feel and that you’re not giving up anything but are enhancing your experience ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjfx46t4ttjkw6zkr0656my)) - When you reach the point of no return, stop moving, and with a finger or knuckle, push upward against your perineum as hard as you safely can without risking pain or injury. Clench the perineum muscles upwards as if you’re shooting energy up your spine from that point. At the same time, close your eyes and turn them upward as if you’re looking above your head. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjfy58c0t8exb1ww7r6fpp5)) - Simultaneously curl your tongue backward inside your closed mouth, so the bottom of the tongue presses against your upper palate. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjfygjr9hj1x0v8jw3732s1)) - Also if possible create as much of a straight line in your spine as you realistically can do in the moment. That includes pulling your chin down to straighten your neck. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjfyswpsj59hb2gdesg1da3)) - Tighten your muscle right below your rib cage so it clenches upward and inward. And hold your breath as long as you can. You ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjfza32pyetenzvvz22dapn)) - Sit in lotus (or as close as you can get to it) with your hands clasped low behind your back in a relaxed position. Bend down to touch your chest to your right knee (or as close as you can get.) As you bend down, breathe out. As you return to sitting up, breathe in. Then, repeat, to your left knee. Do this eighty times altogether (forty times down to each knee.) ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjg54nvy9k2g14chhdmdzyz)) - When you’re completed the eighty bends after you’ve breathed out, come to center with an extra substantial inbreath. Hold it as long as you can while doing all the other things I listed earlier: curling your tongue, closing your eyelids and turning your eyes upward, straightening your spine and neck, clenching the perineum upwards, as well as the muscle at the solar plexus area. Then, suddenly release everything at once and sit there in lotus with your eyes ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjg7x74syh9k8zxp2d50dd3)) - Do that exercise in lotus position with a partner. Both of you bring the energy above your heads at the same time before returning it to the base of your spine. That’s particularly enjoyable while doing that while sitting back to back. Now, turn to face each other, and instead of bringing the focus back down your own body, bring it down your partner’s body. While you two are getting used to reading each other, trace the pattern with your finger on his or her body. So, when the imaginary circulation of energy comes down from above your head and across to your partner’s scalp, touch it lightly and drag your finger down along your partner’s spine to the base. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjgebk8q4dt8dxrbhe3p9y0)) - Your partner will imagine that line of light. Then, push at the base to represent the energy jumping across from your partner’s sex organs to yours, and draw the imaginary line of energy up your body again. Circle it around as long as you both like, making it go faster and harder as you progress. You’ll be hopefully feel that you’re able to sort of *be* inside each other’s bodies. You each feel the other’s energy traveling inside your body. By circulating it, it becomes not just you and the other person, but both of you together as one. It’s energizing, intimately bonding, a new adventure to explore. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01hhjgfv27zsdheady9j7yqb1v))